Avoid Talking about your Ex on your Dating Site Date

Are you really still talking about your ex?  Really?  Guys and gals, you have got to move on!  Especially if you are now out and about in the dating world and starting to make connections on dating sites.  It gets very old very fast when you spend all your time talking about your ex.  Do you want to hear about their ex?  I doubt it.  Then stop talking about yours and get on with your life.

It tells the other person a lot about you when all you can talk about is how awful your ex was.  They will start thinking there is something wrong with you if you allowed yourself to be with someone so terrible.  Is that the kind of impression you want to make?  That you are a pathetic person who can’t find a decent partner?  On the other hand, you may not be able to stop talking about how wonderful your ex was.  If this is the case, your date will wonder why you ever broke up.  And then your date will start to wonder if your ex broke up with you and you’re still madly in love, then maybe you’re the clingy type.  You see how different stories can be construed?

If you are truly ready to move forward and start dating, then you need to leave your ex behind.  You need to stop talking about the ex with your friends and family, and you definitely need to not talk about the ex when you’re with someone new.  If you aren’t truly over your last relationship, perhaps you need to wait before you start dating again.  If you are emotionally raw from your last relationship, you need time to grieve and heal.  Getting back into the dating game too soon could be detrimental to your emotional well-being.  Be sure you are ready. 

Talking about your ex on a date is a sure sign that you are not over him.  But it’s the last thing the new person in your life wants to talk about.  Remember, they don’t even know you very well.  It’s doubtful that they would want to offer you a shoulder to cry on.  It’s not even fair to ask them.  You have presumably moved on to a new chapter in your life.  And though your break-up may have been painful, you don’t have to advertise that pain every time you meet someone new.  Find a way to grieve and get over the pain.  Once you’re feeling back to normal, you can get back on the proverbial horse.  And you can talk about yourself, and what makes you tick and your passions, dreams and desires. You can talk about everything except your ex.  And guess what?  Once you’re over him, you won’t even want to talk about him anymore.  You’ll be ready to move on with someone new.